February 13, 2012
Three
Its's a Magic Number
We have THREE in our family and that's a magic number.You may be chuckling if you remember that song from "SchoolHouse Rock." It's true for my family though--we are three and that's our magic number.We are a triangle family -- Mom and Valerie and Kenneth -- one at each point of the triangle. Sometimes we are EQUILATERAL -- all three of us occupying an equal amount of space and effort and time in the family.But that's pretty rare. It feels pretty good when we get here. All three of us laughing together, or working together.
Sometimes, though, it feels to me like we are ISOSCELES -- Mom's side of the triangle is shorter that theirs -- on those days when I feel short-changed, frustrated, harassed -- when no one will do their chore, or pick up after themselves, or demand more of me than I think I can give. But on the eve of Valentine's Day, I want my children to know a little more about triangles. Specifically, I want them to know about Pythagoras' theorem. Because the theorem shows that when we are RIGHT -- at right angles, or right with one another--when we acknowledge the enormous amount of work and love and effort each of us puts into our family-- then the larger area takes up all the smaller ones.No matter how big what we do or what we demand seems to the rest of the family, our family can contain it all. We will always have each other, no matter what.I will always love you. I will always be there for you. I will always care about how you are, and I will always love who you are.NO MATTER WHAT.Happy Valentine's Day to my darlings. WE are a magic number.
Posted by Rebecca Black. Posted In : Children
January 23, 2012
Who will inherit the Kingdom of God? In the beatitudes, Jesus said the blessed meek would do so. Strictly speaking, this means trouble for my son. As an Aspie, my son would really never be described as meek.
adjective, -er, -est.1.humbly patient or docile, as under provocation from others. 2.overly submissive or compliant; spiritless; tame. 3.Obsolete . gentle; kind.
I thought the following article* explained him quite well:
- They are highly verbal individuals.
Pro: Many people wit...
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January 17, 2012
You'll never know what I wrote ten minutes ago. Ten minutes ago, I wrote a lovely and very long blog about how having ADD effected my early childhood and teen years. It was insightful and profound. As I pushed "save," my computer flashed a screen to say, "We are rebuilding your blog app. Save your work and post in a few minutes." I did so. And now its gone. It led me to the same impulse, the same thought that prompted my blog about having ADD. As I get older, I am getting more organized and le... Continue reading...
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October 6, 2011
Recently, my Aspie son and I watched all the X-Men movies in order. We frequently do this--take a series of movies, watch them in order, then critique the nuances. As an aspiring filmmaker, my son likes to look for hidden themes and "memes" the director may have included.
In case you don't know the story of X-Men, it involves mutated humans who, through their mutation, possess supernatural abilities. The X-men are leery of "normal" humans, don't understand their motivations, but find themselve... Continue reading...
Posted by Rebecca Black.
July 18, 2011
Found this on a wordpress site (www.theotherside.wordpress.com) LOVE the positive spin. Discovery Criteria for Aspie…
A. A qualitative advantage in social interaction, as manifested by a majority of the following:
1. peer relationships characterized by absolute loyalty and impeccable dependability
2. free of sexist, “age-ist”, or culturalist biases; ability to regard others at “face value”
3. speaking one’s mind irrespective of social context or adherence to personal beliefs
4. ab... Continue reading...
Posted by Rebecca L.. Posted In : Aspergers
June 15, 2011
Autism--Dads: nothing to be ashamed about
This
blog goes out to everyone but especially fathers of children with
autism--since I too am a father of a 5-year-old precious boy who has
autism and I can only speak for myself. This is also a reason why I
wanted to insert snippets of thoughts and opinions in our new book,
"Look At My Eyes" that SHOULD BE ON OUR FRONT DOOR STEP TODAY!!!! You
can always find more information at www.lookatmyeyes.com.
When
we realized William was not as typical ...
Posted by Rebecca L..
May 24, 2011
Guest Blogger Seth Fowler is co-author (with wife Melanie) of the newly released book : Look at My Eyes, available for order here from Brown Publishing. Read more about the Fowlers on their site by clicking here.
I often hear my 5-year-old son with autism as "being inside a box." I get that. He's in there somewhere...he reacts, he can speak a little bit, he feels and he knows when things are not how they should be. So it's not like he's just a shell of a person with nothing going on inside.... Continue reading...
Posted by Rebecca L..
May 20, 2011
Like everyone else in the Northeast, I've been following the case of Camden Hughes and his mother Juliann McCrery. We don't know all the details yet, but what we do know is shocking and awful. An adorable little boy with bright blond curls wearing Lightning McQueen sneakers was found dead in the woods in Berwick ME. A couple in the area saw a pickup truck and described it to police. Police found the boy's mother at a Massachusetts rest stop in a pickup truck matching the description. The moth... Continue reading...
Posted by Rebecca L..
February 27, 2011
Just a quick note on a small revelation I had this week. I started on twitter (never thought I'd like it, but I REALLY do) and discovered what a great place it is to network for the Rhythms of Grace ministry. It really is wonderfully comforting to endure a major meltdown from my Aspie son, only to see someone else tweeting that the same thing is going on in their life at that very moment! Real time communications are amazing. Now maybe this isn't a revelation for anyone else, but as I started ... Continue reading...
Posted by Rebecca L.. Posted In : Aspergers
February 16, 2011
I recently read an old, old article by Frederica Matthewes-Green. Here is a link to it: click here. It got me thinking and praying on the promise of being known by God, even from before we were formed. I tell volunteers to be prepared for a different kind of joy when they work with autism spectrum children. The payoff for most of us in children or youth ministry is seeing these young people grow in the Lord -- seeing their enjoyment of programs, an increase in knowledge, a growing awareness of... Continue reading...
Posted by Rebecca L.. Posted In : Aspergers
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